Do you go the extra-mile for her most of the time? Yes? Ok. Do you think about her all the time? Still yes? Ok...then tell me, does the thought of her always bring a smile to your face? Most of time? Ok. Can you stay mad at her for long? No. Ok. Lastly, do you know what she loves? Do you know what she hates? Do you know her weaknesses? Where she can improve? If the answers to these last few questions is Yes then the your answer is yes you do love her.
You would lay the world at her feet, move heaven and earth to win her heart...yea I know you would travel the seven seas to see her. I know what you've been through. I know that as a nice guy you probably befriended her and for a time you did everything she asked even when she was joking. Secretly you'd hoped that she would get to know you better, but she didn't, or may be she did.
In matters of the heart things rarely turn out the way we want or expect them to. I like to term it as the "Tom and Jerry game" with you being Tom and the object of your desire being Jerry. She tells you everything, she treats you as her closest friend, sharing her most intimate thoughts and desires with you. Somehow, you never get to tell her what your deepest thoughts are about.
We love that person to the point that we sometimes change our character to better suit the objects of our desire, but often we get quite the opposite. There are a few people who get lucky, those who sometimes find that the lady feels the same way about him - Like in Taylor Swift's "You Belong With Me" - But most of us end up very unlucky. However, don't let it bog you down.
Maybe she said no...firmly no! Not to worry, unless of course she distanced herself in which case I know you are quite miserable as we speak. But if she didn't distance herself and you are still friends, then don't despair! Give yourself credit! You had the courage to tell her how you felt which believe me takes more courage than most men can muster. In fact, the second hardest thing for a man besides - crying is confessing what he really feels for a lady he truly cares for!
Why? Well lets see. Lets go inside a man's head for a moment. "If I tell her and she rejects me it's over for me!" "I can only do this once and I gotta do it right or she's gone!" "Once she sees who I really am, I will tell her..." Or the famous one..."Its not the right time, at the right time I will tell her..."(It never is the right time, it never will be no matter what you see in the movies). Friends, there are over a million thoughts and scenarios that play out in your mind as you plan on how to tell the lady of your dreams just what you feel, and it takes unbelievable courage to truly confess how you are feeling. So don't worry, just be happy, whether you haven't told her, or you told her and got rejected or you told her and she said yes...PS: Its always better to know than not to know!
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